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An example that comes to mind for me is

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an individual that I worked with who had experienced sexual trauma.

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And her belief was that if she hadn't gone to this particular place

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where she met up with the perpetrator,

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that it wouldn't have happened.

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And so her initial beliefs were that it was somewhat her fault

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that this had happened.

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And so she carried, many years later,

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the blame, the self-blame, and all that comes,

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the anger and the depression that comes with that sometimes.

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She carried that with her.

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So she began to work on that belief,

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that if only she hadn't gone to that particular place

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at that particular time, it would not have happened,

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and blamed herself, she began to work on that

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and ultimately came to a different way of thinking.

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That she had not been to blame for it,

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she was simply showing up at the PX.

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And that the perpetrator had made the decision

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and was responsible for what had happened.

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She made quite a shift.

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I won't use her words.

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They were very colorful in the way she ended up,

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but yes indeed, she no longer really blamed herself for that.